Gentlemen vs. Hobbyists—A View from VIP Escorts

How VIP Escorts Classify Clients

In the realm of sex work, providers often classify themselves in various ways, from VIP escorts to companions, to less savory terms like "hooker", “hoe”, or "heaux." However, today, I want to delve into how I, and other VIP escorts, classify clients. To me, there are only two types of men in this game: a "Gentleman" and a "Hobbyist." Let me explain.

Being a Gentleman is pretty straightforward. He's defined by three key traits: being selective, decisive, and chivalrous. This man stands out because he takes the time to read a companion’s website, makes a proper introduction, sends a deposit, and perhaps even provides a gift beforehand or during the encounter. On the other hand, a Hobbyist typically lurks on review boards, compiling "binders of women" (haha), and collecting them like stickers in a McDonald’s Monopoly game. These men usually aren't repeat clients of VIP escorts, struggle with screening, and come with a checklist of demands for the allotted time. They often don't tip and may even try to haggle. It's sad, I know (bless them).

When I first entered the world of escorting, I knew I'd encounter all types of people, even some I didn't particularly like. However, as I became more seasoned in this lifestyle, I realized I had much more to offer than just sex. My clients appreciate my insights, life experience, thoughtful musings, and, if I may brag a bit, my warm and sensual spirit. When I feel valued, I'm more inclined to open up, and intimacy feels effortless. It's hard to fully immerse myself in my feminine if I'm constantly on guard during a session. That's why I have a 90-minute minimum for first-time clients. It ensures an unrushed experience and helps weed out the hobbyists.

My business model aims to attract regular clients in the Westchester area. While one-off clients are a great buffer, I prefer a handful of generous suitors. I have no issue with review board sites or those who use them. In fact, I receive plenty of amazing emails from gentlemen on platforms like TER (The Erotic Review), P411, and Private Delights, where I proudly advertise. I've even converted quite a few to regulars. I don't expect every client to be a repeat, but I do believe in upholding common decency and sweetness during intimacy, even in a professional encounter. I enjoy cuddling, stroking a man's chest, giggling, and discussing hopes and dreams. I'm a people person and genuinely love connecting on a deeper level.

Protecting my peace is crucial for my long-term sustainability. Just as I turned down clients as a personal trainer, I apply the same policy in my escort business. This profession can be tough for someone as sensitive to energies as I am. It takes effort to maintain boundaries and love myself enough to say "No" to a booking. I never stop pushing myself to achieve more, but I won't compromise my mental health and spiritual integrity for quick cash.

In closing, if you put your best foot forward when corresponding and interacting with me, you'll receive nothing but the best in return. There will always be plenty of gentlemen and hobbyists, and I genuinely wish us all luck in finding who and what we most desire. Personally, I have tunnel vision when it comes to the type of people I allow around me, and I trust that the right men will make themselves known. Thank you for reading my blog, and I hope it sparks some thoughtful reflection.

My imagined Hobbyist/slobbyist in his natural habitat